With Christmas just around the corner, many of us will spend the next week immersed in traditions, events, and quality time with loved ones. I’ll be traveling to the Midwest later today to join my own family and friends.
Though schedules will be packed with holiday activities, it’s important to remember that being physically together doesn’t automatically mean being fully present. True togetherness requires intentional effort and attention.
This holiday season, let’s make a commitment to focus on the people in our lives—giving them the priceless gift of our presence.
Here are 10 practical tips to help you connect more deeply with those around you:
1. Turn Off the TV
When the television is on, it often becomes the centerpiece of attention, pulling focus away from conversations and connections. Consider turning it off, even if tempting programs like NFL games air on Christmas Day. Enjoy the rare chance to simply be together.
2. Make Hellos and Goodbyes Count
Stand up to greet loved ones when they arrive and to send them off warmly when they leave. This small gesture, sometimes called “doing take-offs and landings well,” can have a big impact on setting a positive tone for your interactions.
3. Set Your Phone Aside
Silence your phone and place it out of sight during gatherings. The person sitting across from you deserves your full attention more than any notification.
4. Ask Meaningful Questions
Move beyond small talk and engage in deeper conversations. Here are some ideas:
- What’s one goal you’re excited about for next year?
- What challenges are you hoping to overcome?
- What’s the best advice you’ve received lately?
- Have you discovered any great books or podcasts recently?
5. Be Grateful for Every Gift
Every gift represents someone’s effort to show care, regardless of its size or your preferences. Choose gratitude and avoid complaints—you’ll brighten the giver’s day and embrace the spirit of the season.
6. Run Errands Together
If a family member needs to run an errand, offer to join them. These small moments often lead to meaningful conversations and create shared memories.
7. Make Eye Contact
Whether with a barista, a cashier, or a family member, looking someone in the eye communicates respect and interest. It’s a simple but powerful way to show you value them.
8. Offer Sincere Compliments
Take time to notice the good in people and express it. Compliments don’t need to be elaborate—a heartfelt acknowledgment like, “I love how you make everyone feel welcome,” can mean the world.
9. Be Present at the Table
Mealtime is a perfect opportunity to engage fully with those around you. Treat the table as a sacred space to connect, whether over a holiday feast or a casual cup of coffee.
10. Play a Game Together
Pull out a board game or deck of cards to bring everyone together. Unlike screen-based activities, games encourage face-to-face interaction, laughter, and bonding.
This holiday season, let’s focus less on the distractions and more on the relationships that truly matter. Togetherness is one of the greatest gifts we can give!